Here is another rare NON PR post. Sometimes, I just have to say things. Now we as women know that we can be a handful. So this is not a man bashing; so keep reading fellas as you are free to comment, in fact you're encouraged.

Back to the point: When your friends (or friends with benefits, or wives, or girlfriends or significant others) upset you or "piss you off" (for those of you who like to keep it gutta) there are so many ways to express your displeasure that will reach us faster. I am going to be generic, yet thorough. Bare with me, it gets better.

It's becoming apparant to me as I age that men and women have different versions of what is considered disrespectful. Let me list a few things that women find disrespectful...just for clarity:

1. Cheating (duh)

2. Intimate conversations with other women (see number 1)

3. Coming to pick us up or coming home late (depending on your living arrangement)

4. Not answering the phone when we call you and you're just "out with your boys"

5. Speaking to us differently when you are on the phone in front of your friends (see Beyonce's Say My Name)

6. Cussing us out or loud talking us (particularly in front of friends)

Now there are others, but thats a good start. Now lets talk about number six. Cussing someone out should be defined as calling them names that are also considred cuss words and usually doing it in an elevated voice. Sure there are cusswords that can be peppered throughout your conversation that are not cussing AT a person, per se, like "all the damn time" or "aint that some shit".

What I mean is Bitch this, F___ you, bitch. etc. That is soooo not the right way to get the result you want.

When you know the conversation is going bad and you're upset, try this: Listen ___________, I am not feeling this convesation right now, and we need to end it until we can talk later. Am I saying that she won't stil TRY to drill her point? She probably will. But guess what? She will HAVE to stop when she gets no response.

On the other hand, if SHE is calling you names without you breaking the rule, then the game changes; however, there are thousands of names you can call her without using the B word.... thousands. Try some of them. They work too, without the same damage.

If she is a good friend, or a lover, or a wife, or a friend with benefits, and she was a bitch, would you be with her? Probably not. If she's a "bump in the dark" and carries herself with no value, then maybe she can tolerate a few derogatory names, but fellas by all means, if you actually plan on getting a good response from someone on your list of valuable relationships, PLEASE find another word. That word does damage with repeated use. Consider that the warning on the side of the bottle.

Your comments are welcome. This has been one woman's opinion. Share your own.